Tuesdays With Nate | The Real Becka and Nate

If you look back in the annals of Tuesday with Nate, some of my first posts were about me and Becka, the things we have in common, the things we disagree on, and someday I’ll do a post of all of her annoying quirks.  It’s been a while since I’ve done anything like that, and at the last wedding we shot, I realized that people may forget that we are a real couple that have a real life together, and I wanted to share a little insight about us with you.

We do a lot together

Yes of course we work together, we shoot, we plan, we dream, we travel.  But we spend a LOT of time together not working.  We adore road trips, food, and music.  We love Scrabble, wine, cheese (in that order), and actually agree on a few TV shows (“It’s Always Sunny” anyone?).  We just got bicycles, and the last two days we’ve ridden all over Orlando.  (Becka has defied the old adage of “it’s just like riding a bike”, and it was a little rough at first, but she’s really got the hang of it, and we’re going to try without training wheels later this week.)  And, believe it or not, Becka has even started playing “Little Big Planet” for the PS3 with me!  By the way, like the best game ever.

We Fight

I said that “I realized that people may forget that we are a real couple” earlier. I actually realized that when we were shooting a wedding while fighting. Obviously we would never blow our cover, no one else knew we fighting, no one stormed off or started yelling.  But we were.  It was resolved as fast as it started, and we danced together that night under a beautiful Florida sky at that same wedding.  Two of our biggest similarities are that we are both very smart, and extremely stubborn.  Combine that will a little bit of “hates to be wrong” and take us to the National “passive aggressive when I’m angry” World Championships and watch us bring home the gold.  Our fights are usually very passionate, very short lived, and end in us being very honest and sincere about how we feel.  Another fuel for the fire is that when I’m upset, I like to be left alone, and Becka likes to talk it out right away.   Our fighting styles are literally like oil and water.  On the plus side, we both hate to leave things unresolved for any real amount of time, so we rarely go longer than an hour before feeling so bad that we have to deal with it.

We Compromise

Ah, the key to any good relationship.  We compromise.  Becka let’s me make everything spicy, lets me be alone to play video games, lets me drag her introverted self out to meet other people, and watches more Family Guy/American Dad than she’d probably watch if I wasn’t around.  I let her hog Netflix with Roswell Season 3 (she’s never actually going to watch it), we pretty much eat Vegetarian at home, and we stock the fridge with diet soda.  Also, I’ve almost completely given up smoking crack for her (today is my cheat day).

We have a great relationship.  It’s sometimes hard to work with your best friend/roommate/fiance AND spend most of your non-work time (I don’t think we ever have free-time, so I don’t call it that) together too.  It’s one of the reasons I’m still part time at the “fruit stand”. In all sincerity, I wouldn’t want to work or live with ANYONE else.  She is the best friend and partner anyone could ask for.

So… What do you “compromise” to keep the one you love happy?

And… What else do you want to know about me and Becka?  ask us at our formspring. And since we hadn’t gotten the chance to share these yet, here are a few frames of us playing in the winter wonderland in Iowa a few weeks ago…

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